Pamela Pazmino, Corporate counsellor/AMHSW of Beyond Purpose Therapy
“It's fundamental to acknowledge that for some women who need medical termination or have had a miscarriage, their personal experience may consist of medical interventions, severe physical pain, be in a state of survival/uncertainty and/or have emotional and psychological difficulties lasting for several days, weeks or even months.”
Dr Jana Combrinck, Women’s Health GP
“Two days’ [bereavement leave] is simply inadequate. I don’t believe in one size fits all. The experience of a miscarriage is variable from woman to woman. In an ideal world she would be able to take as much leave as she felt was necessary.”
Survey respondent who experienced a miscarriage
“[I] did not feel comfortable to ask employer [for additional leave], they would have said no”
Survey respondent who experienced a miscarriage
“I felt they [employer] would think I have had enough time off.”
Jen, experienced two miscarriages
“People need to talk more about miscarriage. I know so many people who’ve had miscarriages and they were all feeling really alone at the time. It just doesn’t need to be that way.”
Pamela Pazmino, Corporate counsellor/AMHSW of Beyond Purpose Therapy,
“Returning to work too early may have an impact on their self-confidence, work performance and social interactions which as a result can have longer-lasting effects to their mental well-being and at times requiring longer time off work later in the recovery stage.”
Dr Jana Combrinck, Women’s Health GP
“Physically, returning to work so soon poses a potential danger to the woman herself and, depending on her role, others too. Bleeding can be highly unpredictable and heavy bleeding can result in collapse. Pain can impact the women’s ability to focus on the task at hand.”
Jen, experienced two miscarriages
“I definitely felt that I should have taken more time off but I was very conscious that it was early and that maybe I shouldn’t dramatize it. I wasn’t keen to tell heaps of people either. I was very confused about it. In retrospect, I definitely should have taken time off because it definitely added up to quite a lot of anxiety later. ”
Survey respondent who experienced a miscarriage
“I was young and felt a little ostracized and like I shouldn't be feeling how I was or
didn't need to or shouldn't talk to anyone at the time. I shut down after trying to
talk with friends who didn't understand.
”
Survey respondent who experienced a miscarriage
“I didn't get any time off work, I would not have got paid at all, I could not
afford to be off work so I miscarried whilst I worked in day care.”
Survey respondent who experienced a miscarriage
“[Miscarriage] is the 'elephant' in the room; much like suicide. The stigma attached has people hesitant to speak about it or offer their condolences. Miscarriages, the loss of a baby, is very much an everyday occurrence; it needs to be normalised and ok to speak about.”
Survey respondent who experienced a miscarriage
“Employer didnt support me enough, made me feel like I should be at work.”
Survey respondent who experienced a miscarriage
“I didn't feel like a miscarriage was a 'good' enough reason [for additonal leave]”
Survey respondent who experienced a miscarriage
“I used a combination of sick leave and unpaid leave, as I didn't feel quite
ready to come back to work with just my sick leave entitlements.”
Survey respondent who experienced a miscarriage
“My employer didn't offer bereavement leave and wouldn't allow me to use
my annual leave so I used all the sick leave I had and returned to work when
it ran out.
”
Survey respondent who experienced a miscarriage
“I had no more leave saved up and I couldn't afford to be off work any longer
without pay.
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